1. They don’t ask you about yourself
A cold-hearted person doesn’t often show much interest in the person they’re with. Whether the relationship is romantic or platonic, a cold-hearted person has very little interest in other people.
A cold-hearted person doesn’t often show much interest in the person they’re with. Whether the relationship is romantic or platonic, a cold-hearted person has very little interest in other people.
They won’t ask you questions about yourself. Or, if they do, it’s to learn information that is useful to them in some way.
2. They’re distant
Not just physically, but emotionally. It may seem like they’re never really “all there” when you’re having a conversation.
They keep a lot of their feelings to themselves. Someone who has a ‘cold heart’ will rarely ever open up about their emotional vulnerabilities.
They simply keep their distance, no matter what.
3. Something is always ‘missing’
You just can’t connect with a person who has a cold heart.
When you’re with them, it may always feel like there’s a piece of something ‘missing’ from the relationship.
Whether the relationship is romantic, platonic, or familial, a cold-hearted person will always have a hard time connecting with the people in their lives.
Something is ‘missing’, and it’s usually an emotional connection.
4. Manipulative
Someone with a ‘cold heart’ will often try to control the people around them through manipulation.
This is because they often lack empathy for other people. “Manipulators often voice assumptions about your intentions or beliefs and then react to them as if they were true in order to justify their feelings or actions, all the while denying what you say in the conversation,” says Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT.
A cold-hearted person will try to manipulate everyone around them.
They may try to get close to people and find out information that is useful to them. They will often have skeletons in their closets, and a list of people that they have manipulated for one reason or another.
They may try to get close to people and find out information that is useful to them. They will often have skeletons in their closets, and a list of people that they have manipulated for one reason or another.
5. No good relationships
Someone with a ‘cold heart’ will have no good relationships in their past. “Emotionally unavailable people see a relationship as a source of comfort — something to occupy their time until something better comes along,” says author and relationship expert Sarah Rusca Cline.
They may often characterize their ex-partners as “crazy”. They have a string of bad relationships left in their wake. They can’t seem to settle down with one person. They also may have a disconnect from their family. A person with a ‘cold heart’ is also not likely to have very many close friends, either. Keep an eye out for this person’s past and present relationships.
6. Self-centered
Me, me, me. Someone with a ‘cold heart’ will often be focused on how everything affects them – even when it doesn’t. “Unconsciously viewing others as “extensions” of themselves, they regard them as existing primarily to serve their own needs—just as they routinely put their needs before everyone else’s…” says Dr. Seltzer
They tend to be incredibly self-centered. This type of behavior manifests in playing the victim or trying to one-up someone. If you get a promotion, a cold-hearted person will be able to make it about them, somehow. They might say they got a better promotion (even if they didn’t).
7. Lying
Lying is a behavior to watch out for when it comes to someone with a ‘cold heart’. Lying is a part of manipulation, which a cold-hearted person uses to control the people around them. They may lie about things that don’t really matter, like what they did that day, or what school they went to. A cold-hearted person may also lie about big things.
Usually, someone with a ‘cold heart’ will lie about their past relationships, or any falling out with friends. “…you’ll see a history of his fabricated storytelling and wonder to yourself how you could have ever believed some of those absurd lies in the first place,” says divorce recovery coach Cindy Holbrook. They lie to make themselves seem more sympathetic.
8. Treat others poorly
Someone with a ‘cold heart’ will often show their hand. “They exhibit a constant need to talk about (display) themselves in flattering and egotistical ways, with frequent reminders of their superior and envy-worthy dispositions,” says professor, author and private coach, Preston Ni.
In this case, keep an eye out for the way they treat people that they deem ‘beneath’ them in the social hierarchy. How they treat anyone in the service industry should be observed closely. You should also keep an eye out for how they treat homeless people, as well. A person with a cold heart won’t have the empathy to treat these types of people as human beings worthy of respect.
Final thoughts
Getting mixed up with someone who has a ‘cold heart’ can be taxing. However, knowing all of the signs will put you ahead of the game. Don’t be afraid to remove yourself from the life of a person who is cold-hearted. Everyone deserves to have healthier and happier relationships than ones with cold-hearted people.
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